Hello! And welcome to Level Up! With Shay!
(Hey there, thanks for being here. If you wanna listen, this is also a podcast episode)
So today, I am going to share a thought I had recently – and that is – you are not gonna be for everyone.
So, I sent out my weekly newsletter earlier this week and I talked about how people are burnt out. And that I think one of the main reasons for burnout is because people are not living their passion or purpose – they are being called to something else, something higher, possibly scarier. And I think people living in their passion and purpose will inevitably change the world, in the best way.
Well, I think that, but I was honestly scared to share that.
I kept going back and forth – “Oh should I say that? Oh maybe I should go a little easy. I don’t want them thinking that I’m telling them what to do and if they don’t do it they’re ‘bad’ ‘lazy’ ‘not as good as me’ etc.” All of these thoughts were running through my head as I was writing the email, but my heart was calling me to share my beliefs and message.
Now, I’ve said many times on this podcast, in my conversations, on social media, that I AM NOT PERFECT. I do not have this podcast to tell people what to do. I have this podcast because I love learning and growing and SHARING that with others. I, at the same time as you, am leveling up! Any insight that I share with you on this podcast is not because I know better, it’s because I’ve made mistakes and had to go through hardship and I came out on the other side with WISDOM! That’s how life works!
And if we’re being honest here, if you go through hardship and DON’T gain wisdom, what are you doing?!
So, needless to say, AGAIN, I am not telling people what to do, I am just sharing my experience and lessons and if you catch on, great. That’s really all I can ask or hope for.
Now, I am very passionate about my career, my relationships, my lifestyle, my FREEDOM! So passionate that I started a podcast to talk about it! And during the pandemic, when so many people were going through such hard times, I wanted to be there for them. I wanted to tell them that this was a moment for everyone to stop and reevaluate what they want out of life. Because it’s short, right?!
But other people came out of the woodworks and said all over social media “Stop telling people they need to work right now. What we need is rest” “It’s ok to not wake up so early and get on your grind!” “Stop with all this toxic positivity!”
Let me say this – giving inspiration, motivation, encouragement, is NOT toxic positivity. If someone reads a post that says “This is the time to start working towards your own career” or “You wanted time to work on your business and yourself? Well, you just got it” and they feel bad when they read that, then 1) the post or message is NOT for them and 2) what is the trigger?
What is making them feel so awful reading something like that?
I don’t want to go super woo woo on you, and I do not know the science as far as physics or laws or anything on this, but this life, this world is a MIRROR. It’s actually a Universal Law called the Mirror Law or Universal Law of Reflection. If you see a post that triggers you, or even if someone else triggers you – sure you could call them out for being toxic or doing you wrong, but the best thing to do is to figure out what that thing is mirroring back to you.
I went over this in therapy and still do (literally just HOURS ago haha)! When someone makes me mad and triggers me, there is something inside of me, some unconscious belief that causes my emotions to bubble up to the surface.
Now, I will say, that does not give anyone the excuse to be mean or hurtful or toxic. If someone is putting hurtful information out there or treating you poorly then maybe you just shouldn’t follow or be friends with that person anymore. But in those situations where you’ve been so triggered, do you think that was their intent?
We have to start focusing MORE on the intentions of others.
So going back to me being scared to write a passionate email – those messages are to share my story and beliefs with others with the intent to inspire, motivate, and think more deeply about their lives and those around them! I do not think that if they don’t – they’re lazy. Or if they ignore it – they hate me and they just aren’t ready for the TRUTH.
No!
There will be times where my truth is not going to be someone else’s truth. And there will be times where we share the same truths! For example, I listen to Brendon Burchard all the time. He is a leader in personal development, focusing in the high-performance space. He works with Fortune 100 CEO’s, Oprah, Olympic athletes and more. He’s incredible and he truly inspires me. His talks are about LEADERSHIP because he coaches leaders and that’s what he’s passionate about. Truly, every time I listen to a talk of his, it INSPIRES me to be a leader.
But if someone else listened to him, they might be like “Wow he’s bossy. Wow he wants us to check-in with ourselves EVERY WEEK? We’re supposed to write a plan out everyday for what we want to get done? Chill out dude.” And that’s ok because what he’s spittin’ is not their truth. But guess what? He ain’t afraid to say it! And he’s had so much success and has so many followers, or collaborators as he calls them, who love him because he has been himself and he shares his beliefs on what makes a true high-performing leader.
I have strong beliefs as well that stem from I believe is my life’s purpose, my values, and my experience. I value growth, constant learning, self-awareness, freedom, relationships – all because I think doing or having these things will fulfill me and make the world a better place. So if I think that these things will fulfill me, well surely these same things would fulfill others as well! I can’t be the only one!
I don’t want to lower my voice anymore.
I don’t want to be scared to say something that I feel passionate about but keep it to myself because I might make someone else feel bad or inferior.
Remember, this is all what I THINK. I mean, who is really right on this Earth. Again, not to go all woo woo, but what is RIGHT and what is WRONG? We have the bible to tell us what’s quote unquote “right” or “wrong” but that was made by humans. And that is just one of MANY books on how to “best” live our lives.
We need to have the courage to stand strong in our beliefs and our passions.
We need to have the humility and self-awareness to know that we could be wrong.
Times could change, life could happen, and those beliefs change. We need to have forgiveness and know that everyone may not mesh with our message, give them their space, and focus on the ones who are waiting for us.
Of course, Malcolm X has a quote that I love.
“If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.”
There is also another one I want to share by a man named William Bernbach:
“If you stand for something, you will always find some people for you and some people against you. If you stand for nothing, you will find nobody against you and nobody for you.”
Stand for something, even if it’s scary.
If it’s burning in your heart, I’m sure it’s because someone needs to hear it. ❤
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